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If you are a couple that has regular bouts of fighting and arguing… the few minutes it takes to read this web page could save you months or years of frustration maybe even (ugh!) divorce!

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Dear Discouraged Couple,

In a minute, I’m going to introduce you to a unique and proven method for eliminating conflict and fighting from your relationship…

…no matter how bad things may seem today.

If you’re experiencing…
…being IGNORED or DISMISSED.
…second guessing if your relationship is the right one or not….
…or secretly having deeply saddening thoughts that you’re unattractive or not sexy enough and that you’ll be replace by another woman…

Then follow me through this educational video…

…and learn how a slight change in your thinking can end your confusion and get the result you’ve always wanted…

First, I want to say I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this…

It’s not good…

Most women get why this is a problem…

…most men don’t…

And I’m not here to make anyone wrong…

But I am here to tell you (over and over until it finally SINKS IN) that it does NOT have to be this way…

I’m here today to help you change arguing and fighting dynamics permanently…

….to bring back your joy, productive conversations, and for your partner to actually take action on what you are asking for…

It is my goal for you that in less than 45 days from today that not only will you no longer be battling or arguing with your loved one…

…but that true and long-lasting trust, love and enjoyment will be restored and you’ll be thriving in your relationship.

What I’m talking about here is a simple method for finally getting back the person you originally fell in love with…

I’m talking about the sweetness you felt during that “honeymoon stage” where love, feeling special, and passionate sex seemed timeless and enduring…

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I’m very confident in this promise and what it can do for you.

This morning I just finished session number 7 with a couple and I personally witnessed the joy and connection that I just described.

The natural impulse to reach over and kiss the man you love because of a deep trust and understanding that comes when you both get on the same page…

And it was a predictable process I walked them through that consistently gets the same result.

Best part of all…the solution I’m about to show you involves simple “love hacks” you can begin using immediately.

So allow me to share with you how I figured this out and how it is going to transform your ability to navigate conflict…

And restore love…

Signs Are Obvious…But We Don’t Always Trust Them

Hi, my name is Ed Ferrigan, M.A. SEP.

For the past 22 years in a clinical setting I’ve helped couples eliminate destructive conflict from their relationships.

I’ve done it with the same simple method you are about to learn.

It’s called the SafeTalk Couples Communication Method.

And before I tell you about this easily repeatable method I want to tell you why I created this program…

Here’s What Is Keeping You Stuck…

For a moment let’s talk about your need to communicate what you want in a healthy relationship…

The truth is:

You not only have a need to communicate you have a right to feel heard and understood

You already know begging and pleading to hear you out doesn’t work.

You’ve repeated your needs enough times

…you can try changing your words, changing your body language, your tone, even sleeping in a different room for a few nights – but those short term tactics simply don't seem to work either…

So what is actually happening that causes millions-and-millions of couples stay stuck in this dynamic for years…

…that eventually ends in a 50% divorce rate

… or worse yet they continuing living together in a sub par relationship that never feels fulfilling.

…and if you have children you are also passing down the dynamic to them so it continues generation-after-generation.

You’ll have the opportunity to end that curse today!

What I discovered, that makes all the difference in the world is…

And that for some odd reason counselors, therapist, and coaches fail to discuss is this:

…unless you understand what the unconscious dynamic is that’s playing out – it’s all a GUESSING GAME!


Are you surprised? Most folks dismiss the unconscious as too “out-there” and hard to grasp because they don’t understand it…

This is a fatal mistake as you'll soon realize...

I’m going to clear that up for you right now so it’s no longer a mystery to you.

And you’ll see why it’s so essential to know if you expect to permanently change poor communication habits.

The first thing you need to know is your unconscious can also be called the implicit memory system.

Let’s hear what Harvard trained Dr. Daniel Siegel has to say about the memory system…

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“We process and encode experiences in layers of memory. The first layer, implicit memory, begins in the womb and dominates throughout our early years. From our emotions, perceptions, actions, and bodily sensations, we create mental models that shape our expectations about the way the world works. All of this occurs without effort or intention, and our implicit mental models can continue to shape how we act without our awareness.”

In other words, he is saying that our implicit memory system, what most people refer to as the unconscious, is constantly influencing our thoughts and choices…

And without a lot of explanation…

There is one more layer I want to add…

Without the ability to trigger empathy in your partner you will continue to be disappointed and frustrated…

As neuroscientist and child development expert Dr. Bruce Perry MD explains…

Neuroscience expert Bruce Perry

“Empathy is the ability to stand in another’s shoes, to feel what it’s like there and care about making it better if it hurts.”

He goes on to say…”the roots of empathy emerge from the soil of our stress response system…however…if any experience is new or unfamiliar it will initially be perceived as a “stressor, or a source of stress.”

When you combine the knowledge of how our memory system works with how we develop and modify our ability to empathize, it all begins to make sense why you are not getting the result you want when you communicate your needs.

It’s about skills for sure but it’s also about you and your partners biology.

Keep these key point in mind as I illustrate for you in a few minutes how to solve this puzzle…

Learn what I’m about to show you, and I promise you will never look at an argument or disagreement the same ever again!

Most importantly, you are going to regain control of the conflict and get better outcomes from now on…

Everything I’m about to show you was designed to change you and your partners unconscious mind so you both get your needs met.

The secret to solving this riddle is knowing what is happening, or getting played out, that is unconscious in both of you.

Let’s start with the basics of how your biology is at the foundation of this unconscious dilemma so you get the gist of what I mean…

We have two types of memory. Implicit and Explicit memory.

Think of implicit memory as muscle memory and explicit memory as having the ability to tell a story…

Both are uniquely different for a reason…

The implicit system does not have a date code and time stamp.

When triggered, it thinks whatever is happening right now is similar to some emotional event or events that happened 30-40 years ago and causes you to react in the same way.

From the implicit’s memory standpoint, it’s as if that event from long ago is happening right now.

This isn’t always bad.

The implicit or muscle memory system is useful for many things we take for granted…

It’s where learning to ride a bike is stored…
…where playing a instrument is stored…
…where driving a car is stored…
…where playing a sport is stored…
…even how to deal with fear is stored…

So you can see it’s very useful for the right topic or situation…

I think you’d agree it would be painful to relearn how to drive a car every time you needed to go somewhere…

But there are some areas where it can be a problem…

Communication with your partner is one of them…

When we access memories from the explicit memory system, it allows us to see the new experience from the perspective of the past and we react differently because we know it is reminding us of something from the past.

It quite literally feels different to us.

It’s not on autopilot. Our brain registers it as something similar to the past and reacts as if it was from the past.

Versus when the implicit system gets triggered it thinks the past event is happening right now…

The explicit system is less charged up, less emotional, less stressful…

Between the ages of 0-5 the primary memory being used by our brain is the muscle memory or implicit system…

That means whatever you learned about how to communicate is embedded in your muscle memory system…

And hopefully now you are beginning to see - it’s on autopilot!

This is what causes all of us to have knee jerk reactions to peoples behaviors and comments…

What happened maybe 30 or 40 years ago gets triggered and things go south for you.

…and it can take you by surprise and send your own nervous system into chaos unless you know what’s going on…

During this vulnerable age we pick up good habits and bad habits, depending on our environment…

The important thing for you to remember is the implicit muscle memory system is real and at the root of what’s causing the current problem in your relationship…

When arguments happen, both of you have these implicit memories about how to solve conflict from early in life getting triggered.

And here is a key point I want to emphasize…

Because of your age, when you adopted the patterns, they are most of the time misinformed.

So what do we do when we get triggered?

We typically react…

A better solution as you’ll soon see, is to search for new information instead.

In a nut shell…

When we bring in new information from an adult perspective it gets recorded into the explicit memory system.

Then the implicit memory loses its "grip." It no longer runs the show.

When we train ourselves to bring in new information it gets registered in the explicit memory system.

In essence, the explicit system can override the implicit system and makes you more aware of your choices in the moment when you might otherwise be reactive.

So your goal from this moment forward is to develop a new model of communication that is updated and overrides the implicit memories you developed when you were growing up.

The new explicit memory of future similar events allows us to be in present reality…

… based on mature adult thinking.

And this is where things start to get more interesting…

You need something more powerful then just developing better communication skills that updates your memory system without it taking years of therapy…

Something that interrupts the knee jerk reaction and is more conscious about overriding this default memory system…

After seeing well over 200 couples in my therapy practice struggling with this exact issue I decided to find a solution…

The truth is, I’d been working on it in my own relationship for well over 10 years…

For years, I studied neuroscience and attachment theory and the best researchers in child development…

What I didn’t realize at the time was I had made several discoveries that are not easily found in the research.

I discovered them through my own explorations and testing them on my clients for the past 10 years.

So, a few years ago I decided to map it out and come up with a comprehensive solution that would help couples resolve arguing and fighting dynamics forever.

The results of this research is now called the:


SafeTalk Couples

Communication Method


And it was designed to end arguing and fighting dynamics permanently and create everlasting intimacy so couples would have no excuse to divorce or separate or to pass on dysfunctional skills to their children.

Now, I want to solve this issue for you once and for all by showing you what I learned…

…and has helped over 230 desperate couples over the past 20 years of my practice...

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